And that is when you take a look at your calendar and and you really define your time of what you're doing, wind and reading systems around when you're doing it versus shopping when you're doing the playdates. And for me, it's setting your priorities what those are. So it's like. Hey, friends, and welcome to the Girl Means Business podcast. I'm your host, Kendra Smalls, a photographer and educator on a mission to help you find your passion, power and purpose through entrepreneurship.
So let's jump right into today's episode, because this girl means business. Hey, guys, welcome back to the Girl Means Business podcast. Well, welcome to the last week of April. It feels like the last two months have lasted for about two years.
It's been such a crazy couple of weeks. Yesterday, we celebrated my youngest daughter's fourth birthday and in two more days we'll be celebrating my oldest daughter's eighth birthday. Their birthdays are just three days apart. And while it breaks my heart that they are celebrating their birthdays, not in the way they would choose to. We are not having a party. We're not having friends and family over. We are going to host a virtual birthday party with some of their friends.
We've sent out little packages for their friends to open at the time of the party where they're going to have nail polish and facial cats and just fun stuff like girly things for them to do. But I know it's not the same as they would want it to be, but we're just doing the best that we can. And I'm curious to know how all of you other moms out there are doing. How are things going? What tricks, what hacks?
What fun things have you found to do with your kids that helps you either a, get things done during the day, be spend more time with your kids or C, just keep your sanity. And I don't just mean the alcohol. Trust me, I have had my share of wine and vodka nights. But what other things are you doing that are helping to allow your family to feel normal? Allow the kids to feel like this is just a normal part of their lives, even though we all know that it's not.
And there are times I look back and think, how are they going to remember this time? I mean, my kids are only four and eight. And I know that my four year old probably won't remember a whole lot. My eight year old will. And it makes me wonder, how are they going to remember this time? What are they going to look back in tentative teen years and think of this time period in their life as it's just it's interesting.
So today we're continuing our mom by series and I'm chatting with Amy Hyne. Amy Hyne is the founder and creator of Creating Capacity. She's on a mission to lighten the mental load of motherhood, which I know we can all use right now. And she wants to help women create capacity in their lives. They have space for more. And today, we're talking all about creating systems, creating systems in our home, which we could probably use more than now than ever before.
So it's perfect timing, but creating systems that allow us to feel like we are accomplishing something in our day, systems that allow us to feel like that we are doing something right because Lord knows there are so many days when I don't know if I'm doing anything right anymore. So hopefully this interview will help give you some clarity, give you some ideas, and just know that you're doing a great job even if you feel like you're doing the worst job in the world.
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All right, guys, let's get to today's interview. Hi, Amy, welcome to the Girl Means Business podcast. Thank you so much for joining us today. Oh, my goodness. Thank you so much for having me. I'm so delighted to be here.
We're so excited you're here. And I have tons of things for you to talk about today. But before we get started, I always like to ask my guest to tell me a little bit about who you are. Talk about your journey through entrepreneurship or to get to where you are today. And let's just start there.
Right. OK. So I started my first business six years ago. I had been an executive assistant for over 10 years and we had our LaBoy. I did a full time working mom thing for a couple of years, but transitioned to be at home. I knew that financially for us long term that that we were going to need some supplemental income and we couldn't just do it forever on one income. But we did stuff for a season. I'm going to do that.
And I really wanted some time to enjoy my little guy, but also to figure out what comes next, because I knew that corporate America, what I was doing was not going to be the right fit for me long term to be the kind of mom I wanted to be. So I thought I would start some kind of business. I and I had a ton of ideas. I because of what I done. I did a bunch of event planning and project management.
And I thought, you know, I would do some sort of event planning. But the thing that was hard is, I mean, our finances were tight. And so to do some kind of service based industry where I would need to, you know, not charge very much at first and build up a customer base and also need child care. In the meantime, like that was just hard to figure it out. We didn't have any family nearby.
So. And we were looking to move. So we were in the northern Virginia area. We were moved trying to move forward in your family, which is where we live now. So, Amy, so all these things that that made sense just didn't seem like they were the right fit for that season of life. And so I actually decided to start a home based business with a company called Orating and Fields. And, you know, it's funny because it seemed very outside of my skill set I'd never done anything sales related.
I wasn't super passionate about skincare as a skincare company, but I just was intrigued by the opportunity. And something about it more than anything. It just worked for that season of life that it was super flexible. I can, you know, work it around my meyssan if he was sick. You know, it wasn't a big deal. If there were snow days, it wasn't a big deal like I could be angel. So over six years, I did that.
And, you know, it's I learned so much in the process, like so, so much. I more than anything, I learned that I really like to be an entrepreneur and never want to work for anyone else. And then I went to work. I think there's kind of at first I kind of thought, you know, I want to be a stay at home mom, but I want to make a paycheck. And I think that through that process, really building my business and really developing grit and learning the disciplines of being self employed, I realized I really enjoyed Joy working.
I want to use my guessin skills. I want to be the best version of myself. And I'm a better mom when I have that outlet. Because that was just a real really important to learn. And in the process over these six years, we had secondary infertility for most of it. I became a we became foster parents. We just in September adopted our foster son Frank after two and a half years. And then I got pregnant again.
And I'm running two businesses.
I've just started a new business called Creating Capacity, because one of the things I learned in building my business and in coaching other people I've coached hundreds of women in learning builds business to help then start businesses. I learned I love helping people, but I've learned that for so many people, the challenge is really the time issue. Like, how do you find time? Because mom, life will take if you if you aren't intentional with how you spend your days and what you say yes to and what your priorities are, then, mom.
We'll take your all of your life, the laundry and the dishes and the, you know, the never ending cycle. And so I've in building this new business, creating capacity to empower women to make strategic decisions about how they spend their time so that they have capacity for more.
That's amazing. So funny side note is I actually did write it in fields for a while, too, I thought. I've always been into skin care. I worked for a clinic in college. I was a consultant with them. I would travel to different stores and do promotional events. And I got really into skin care. I thought I wanted to go into dermatology for a while. And so when I had my oldest daughter and I was like, I was teaching full time was like, I I want to be I want to be home with her, but I need money.
I got into Rodan and Fields and I just learned very quickly that sales is not my thing. I was kind of like, I love skincare. And that's what drew me to Rodina Fields. And I loved helping women feel good about themselves because I know for me a big source of my competence comes from. You know, having good skin and glowing skin and even like the days I don't put on makeup knowing that I I look good and feel good, that helps me in times.
I wanted other women to feel that way. But the sales part of it and I just could not get behind pushing somebody else's bottom line like I knew I wanted. To spend that time doing something that was my own. You know, I still love the products. Yeah. But but yeah, it was kind of my stepping stone, too. Yeah. Building my own business, sort of like yours. And so it's funny that we have a little connection there, but I love everything you said.
You have such an incredible story. And the fact that you're doing it all with three kids and you've been through so much in your movie. Yeah. The movie that you did and and having a that's one thing I know a little struggle is not having family nearby and having that support system. We are very fortunate that we have both our parents close by to help out with our kids. But I know a lot of people that don't have that. And I'm like, it's so difficult because.
Yeah, you you don't have that quick, easy like, hey, can you come watch my kids for an hour while I go meet with a client? You know that it's hard. Absolutely, yeah. So I want to talk to. I think a little bit about, like you said, sort of finding that those routines and those things that are going to help you do all the things, because as women, as moms, we think, OK, I need to be able to be with my kids.
I need to be able to be mom. But sort of like what you said, too, was that I. I knew I didn't want to be a full time stay at home mom. I have all respect to the world for those women who want to do that. I want to run a business. I want to work. I want to feel like I'm in control of something. I want to feel like I'm able to support my family. I love that.
I truly love what I do. And I can't imagine not doing that. But there is that weight of am I sacrificing my family for something that feels selfish sometimes. And so what advice do you have when when you talk to women who are like, OK, I want to do other things, but how do I do them all without feeling like I am hurting my children or giving a of time with them or with my husband or whatever, whoever it might be?
How do you kind of coach women through that?
Yeah, well, I think that first thing that place you started is for a lot of women. The first place. You know, just coming to that decision of like, no, I do want to work because I think there's a lot of shame and there's a lot of, you know, I should want to do this and I should you know, I feel like that.
Like whenever this has been a journey, like whatever I get as the light go on a field trip.
I really do know what you get. Now I have a baby and it's like so complicated. I'm not a raging baby sitter. I want to feel as I'd like, but I think at first thought I was a brand new mommy.
Like, you know, I'm like, of course, I'm going to want to go on field trips, you know? And then I'm like, you know, I want a job that won't let me go. And I like really another it's all about me sometimes. You know, as a you just got to show up and do the thing right. I've got three kids, so I can't do all the things for all the people, you know? Right.
Right. Because if I was just going on field trips all the time. You know, let me just interrupt you. But you know what? I think you're down the road. So I think part of it is being able to like understand yourself in your gifts and in it and going through. It's a mindset shift to being able to know like, OK, I guess I know that I'm a better mom when I have time to work. And.
And I think it's really important to have your spouse on board with you with that, too. And for me, I think something that is that I think is a really important place to start is with time blocking. And that's helped me tremendously. Being able to make decisions about those things, you know, those ancillary things, because there's all you know, there's a main tasks of motherhood like that. OK. The laundry in each family is different and how they divvy up their tasks and who does what.
But I think I think the like the middle load, so much of it's middle so much of it's that shame. So much of it is that, you know, those messages that you feel like I should. And sometimes people legitimately have family members who are not supportive. You know, moms or sisters or cousins or mother in-laws who are like, you shouldn't be doing this or you shouldn't be doing that. So that's a whole other story. I think it's it's it's so different for every woman, because what you have to go through is over it.
But I think time blocking is and we create capacity. That's the first thing that we're gonna start focusing on. It's really time blocking. And that is when you take a look at your calendar and and you really define your time of what you're doing when and creating systems around when you're doing the grocery shopping, when you're doing the playdates. And for me, it's in setting your priorities of what those are. So it's like whether, you know, what what are the habits of your family.
And and again, that's going back to what do you want? Like, what do you want? You're what, mom? Work life to look like. What do you want your family life to look like? What do you want your goal? Do you want to be going to church regularly? Do you want to? Is your kid going to be doing's, you know, sports this many days a week? And it's really, I think, empowering women to look back to to step back and look at all the things because it all affects it.
You know how many sports you're gonna let your kids do? How many? You know, if you're gonna have dinner with people so many nights a week, if you're gonna say yes to the PTA, like all these commitments, we have to step back and look proactively at all of these things, because if not, we're just saying yes and committing to all these things, then of course there's no time and energy left, you know, or if you just think like, oh, well, I mean, my kids in sports six days a week and it and whatever it is, we all have these different things.
We all have control of our lives and how we spend in our time. But I think for me, looking at the calendar and actually fitting it in is the best place to start because it empowers you to say no and say, OK, if I am that I'm going to build a business and I'm going to work, you know, two hours, you're gonna find that chunks of time and you're going to hold it and then you're gonna know. OK.
Like, maybe I'm gonna have to give up watching this is us or I'm going to have to. Instead of working out for two hours a day, I'm going to work out for thirty minutes or whatever it is like. It helps you, too. For me, it's empower me to say no to things to know. You know, when I can do the field trip, when I can't do the field trip because I only have so many hours in a day.
So yeah, I think the biggest thing for me has been saying no to things. And I think as a specifically as a woman, I don't think men have this problem. And I don't want to stereotype or categorize it'sreally. I think there are men out there who do. But I think women and moms especially haven't really hard time saying no to things and no to our children because of fear. We're afraid of whatever the consequence might be. And just in the past couple years and I know I think it's Rachel Hollis has said this where she's talked about how she does like a calendar audit every year where she sits down, she looks at the calendar from the last year and she goes through like, what were the things that brought me joy?
What are the things that didn't she kind of marae condos, her calendar? Yeah. And she's like, OK, if it's from now on. If it's not a hell yes. It's a hell no. And she is really good about making sure that. Hang on one second.
It's like. This is again, working home from the apple to brown spot. Heaven forbid. But even so, yeah. Rachel Hollis has this. She does this calendar on it was she just really looks at what it is that she wants to allow into her life is for a long time. She'll say she's like I was just saying yes to anything and everything. It came my way and I felt overwhelmed and I felt exhausted and I was resentful. And I dreaded these things.
And when she finally was like, if it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no. And I tried really hard to do that in my own life. And I find that like a perfect example. As my oldest daughter, who's 7, is super athletic, she's really into sports. She does everything from like it's constant soccer right into basketball and softball and then it's volleyball and camps in the summer. And I want her to do those things.
I want her to because I played sports growing up and I know how powerful that can be. But at the same time, I'm like, it's exhausting for us, scheduling wise. I'm like, you can do one sport at a time. You can't do multiple. And eventually you're gonna have to pick maybe a fall in the spring and that's it. And I because we live in a very small town. They will. You know, it's through our school district, which is a very small school.
And they'll send out, you know, we need volunteers. So recently I got the text of like, hey, will you coach the basketball team this year because we need more coaches. And the voices side of me really wanted to say, yeah, I'll do it because I felt guilty. I felt like I needed to. There was that if we don't have coaches, we won't have a team and your kids will get to play. And it was that sort of thing.
I was like, oh, I told my husband was like, I am going to feel terrible if me saying no prevents them from playing, but I'm going to feel even more terrible if I say yes. And then I resent everything for it and I hate it and I'm miserable and all those things. So for me, the saying no has been a huge thing in my business. I've had to say no to clients that weren't a good fit. I've learned to say no to events that I don't have time for, even though I know that they're good events.
I've had to say no to even little things like no, I'm not going to schedule sessions on Sunday's dash. I'm just not. That's my family time. And once I started doing those things, not only did I feel better, but people were able to respect those boundaries a little bit more. But I think the hardest no has been saying no to my kids. Yes.
Yeah, but they need that. Yeah, they do need it. And I think, you know, I've made a shift, too. It's like I used to feel like I mean, my kids know, you know, now I'm building the second business. I'm working, you know, really hard and like. But like, we let the kids in on that. You know, like they know that mommy is building a business like this. Just this morning, we were on the way to school and there are a little for your life, right?
He's like, Mommy, I want to play scenes after school, cricket and things like, do you have any work to do, Mommy? You know, I think I was like, I'm going to work hard to get my work done so we can play this afternoon. So what I try to do is I try to keep light from three to eight like my schedule, but then I might actually like three to seven. I might do some stuff on the weekend, but but still like.
Yeah. You know, Frankie also asked me, he's like, Mommy, can you pick me up today? You know, after lunch, he's a pre-K. So what do you say to like three? But I could pick them up earlier. And that's one of those things. I was like, you know, honey, I'm sorry I missed work, but, you know, there's there that's where, you know, if I was working full time, you know, I would always say no, you know, if I was working at a desk.
But now I think especially there's women who are trying to build businesses from home that, you know, you feel like there's this guilt. But I'm like, if you are working full time, like I get to say yes, so much more, then I would you know, I get to say, yeah, I guess that yes, I said yes to the board games, but I said no to picking them up early because, you know, I wanted to this is like.
Oh, I have. My mom watches the baby. So that's another thing. Also, another thing is just to learn to ask for help. And for me, we do not have feeling you're by. And so now we have the baby. And so looking at my my schedule and time, looking like I was able to ask, I actually asked me, my mother law and my mom ask. They each take one day and she and she sleeps less concentrated time of work.
And I'm with Martin because I never had that. I never had like big chunks of time. But with this what I'm doing now, I feel like I need it. And so anyways, being able to do the time walking and planning helps me ask for that time. And knowing that today is my concentrated time to work and to get stuff done and to really do more like writing and kind of more thoughtful stuff. I didn't feel bad about saying no to Frank.
It helped me write. You know, to say no. So anyway. So, yes. And it's it's still hard. I think you just have. It's just that mindset you're having to remember. And knowing that, like, I want my kids to be so proud that I have a business and it's not. And again, like you said before, it's like that mindset that I'm saying I do want to, but I want them to be so proud of what mommy is building.
Right. And and not like dismissive of this business that I have. So.
Well, I think one thing you said kind of made me think it's been too about the fact that, you know, asking for help. I know a lot of women who are working from home building businesses and a lot of homes, if you ask them, like, why did you do that? Why did you decide to start a business from home or why did you decide to quit your 9:00 to 5:00 to work from home? They're going to say, I wanted more time with my kids.
And but that also leads into. Well, now I feel like I can't ask for help or I can't put them in a daycare or I can't, you know, block off time for myself because I'm doing this because I want to spend more time with the kids. So why would I send my kid off to somebody else? I know I struggle with that when I quit teaching the first year and I was home to hatch. I think my daughter was she was one time.
And so my oldest one just started kindergarten, my little nose one. And I felt awful asking for help. I felt so guilty, even though it was my my mother in law, my father in law, my mother in law, my mom and my dad. And I was like, can you watch her for just a couple hours so I can get work done? And luckily, my my parents are super supportive and they know what I'm doing and they are 100 percent behind me on it.
I felt the guilt of saying I need to block this time to do these things. And that means me having somebody else watch my child. But I think it's just it's a mindset. Like you said, you have to just get over the fact that. One not wearing about e-mails thinks about it. This is your business in your life, in your family. And to knowing that if you can block that one day, it frees up the rest of your week or the next two or three days to do that.
Spend that time with your kids. Absolutely. This week, like next week, my kids are off. And so I was sucking my mom this morning. She's like, you need help next week. And I was like, well, we were planning we'd take him to the zoo one day at the science in our cell. Like that is like I get to spend all next week with them. I don't it's OK that we're going to be round to spend time with them today.
But get that definitely was a mindset shift. And I think that, you know, family can play a huge role. And I think it's so important to be in relationships with other women that feel this way, because I think depending on where we moved to Melbourne, we live in Melbourne Vortex, a small town. And it was really hard because there's a lot of women who don't who don't have the entrepreneurial vote-getter passion that I do. And so being connected with women, that's one of the reasons why I started creating capacity is because I think, you know, we deal all those thoughts.
Feelings are so normal and different people have different situations and different pressures. And we all have some personalities are just more inclined to care what other people think that others. And that's a really good thing that you're makes you really compassionate and kind. But it also makes it hard sometimes to make, though, to do those things. But, you know, I also think, like, if you don't have family nearby, like just asking for another mom, like maybe there's someone else who's in the same boat that you could, like, switch off with now you trade.
Yeah. Yeah. That you like. You take them on Monday and you. And it doesn't have to be for people pursuing work. Like it could you know, whether maybe that's just volunteering or whatever you just need. If you're just in the very beginning and you're like I have no idea. Just to go to Starbucks lecture hall and in dream about what you want to do. Like like what? You've got to have friends that you can talk about and stuff with.
And and sometimes if you because sometimes, you know, arguments I have for especially girls on my team to their family members, where the most discouraging. You know, are judge mental about like they needed to be at home. They needed to be happy to be at home. And if they weren't like that was there was something wrong with them. So it's like if a family member isn't helpful, then maybe use especially look for a friend that you could like.
Yeah. If if financials is. It is. The other thing I was gonna say is as in my in emails with those one. Here's a couple of women who built Dangerfield's businesses and one of their financial goals was still to be able to pay for daycare. And it wasn't about. They wanted to have the flexibility, so like their kids, you know, they're able to know themselves. And for me, I was like, wow, like just to be able to be that empowered to feel like it's OK if your kids still go to daycare.
If that's the right information for your family, if they still, you know. She what she did as one friend in particular, she picked she'd have a playdate with them on Friday. On Wednesdays, they would go do something fun until they all started kindergarten. They would go do something fun. And that was like their play day. And then she was all intentional about not doing any work around the kids. So she was able to set better boundaries.
So you just had to figure out what works for you and not worry about what other people face. And I know that that's easier said than done.
But I think, too, like you mentioned earlier, about, you know, really figuring out what your. What your life looks like. You know, what does your family life look like? What is your work life look like? What what is it that you want? And I think that ties in a little bit to. You know, personality types, too, and the fact that, like knowing, knowing how you work as a person. So for me, I know that like I get up in the morning and my time like I get up to drop my daughter off at school and then I get.
Typically, I try to have like gym time a couple of days a week. I go the gym and my youngest one loves it because they have childcare there. And the little child care lady paints her nails and fixes her hair and they play games. So it's her it's fun time for her to run other kids. And and then I get my me time and then she and I will go do something. We'll run errands, even if it's something as simple as, hey, it's Monday, we're going to the grocery store.
But it's that time together. I know that I work my best in the afternoons and evenings. And the part I struggle with is that I honestly I do my best work from like five to nine, which sadly that is the time when everybody else wants my attention. So my husband, I have had to work around that. You know, because that's for whatever reason. That's the time of day when I feel inspired. I feel motivated. I'm like on it.
I'm ready to do all the things. But it's also the time when there's dinner and there's homework and there's kids and there's a husband coming home from work that wants my attention. And there's Netflix and all these things that we want to do together. So we've had to kind of schedule it. OK. I need at least one or two nights a week where I can go in the office. I can close the door. You're in charge of dinner.
You're in charge of bed and bath time and I can just get things done. And if that if one night I'm not feeling it. I'm like, no, you know what I'm like. Last night I came home. I was exhausted. I've just. It's just a crazy time a year. And I was like, you know what? I'm laptop's off turning off my phone. We're gonna just all lounge on the couch and watch a Disney movie together and not even think about anything else.
And then tomorrow night I can have my work. So we're flexible with that. But we have kind of done what you've said and put in the work of this is what works for us. And it may not work for everybody else, but that's how we make it work. And I and I a lot of women look at other people and I see this a ton and Facebook groups will go into phases. OK, well, you know, I'm struggling with this.
How did you make this work? I think that's great to ask for advice, but I also think it's a little bit. Harmful in some ways, because now you are. Asking somebody else to tell you how to handle your schedule. And there's a difference between people asking for advice and how do you do it vs.. This is how it should be for everyone.
It's ever different because differently different different personalities need different accountability. You know, some people are better like. Yeah. We're just all there. And that's one of my visions with brain capacity is making it about, you know, empowering you to decide what works for you. You hear some art, like curating some options, like here's some ideas and then let's brainstorm, you know, have a eureka, brainstorm things and then find a solution and implement it.
But yeah, there's not a one a one size fits all and different people have different goals. You know, some women want to build a six figure business. Some people are just looking, you know, for a hobby craft. You know, they're building something that's just kind of fun and, you know, making it huge isn't their motivation. So it's like it's all different. But I think what you're saying that the conversation with your spouse is super important.
You know, we have that and doing the time blocking is super helpful. So that I know like, okay, if I've got this Monday block or this Wednesday block and then I've got like a Saturday, I've asked my husband, I'm like, it'll just be helpful. And some days on a Saturday, it end up not meeting yet. I've been productive enough, but it just said that it's on his radar and my husband having I said the calendar thing to him.
So it's like on his calendar. So he knows because of Maltz we forget. But this is when, you know, Amy's going to leave the house because. And then I'm not resentful. So then then he remembers. If not, you expect them to just always remember. I mean, again, different husbands have different personalities. Yeah, but like for mine, I know that it doesn't it's not malicious if he forgets, it's just his personality.
Right. But the other thing I was going to mention that you spoke to Elle about the time timing, knowing yourself. So I am 100 percent a morning person. I get I don't get it done by noon. Like, you know, it's probably not going to get done now. And I've learned so that in the evening I do kind of fun stuff, like I might make graphics, you know, if I'm going to put some business time in, I'm all like mess around on camera making graphics.
I'll do kind of like funds. But idle, I know I need to get like my writing or I'm that both on here and it's helped me. So I'm a jumper and do I take the kids to school? I go to the gym, I come home and usually the baby's ready for a nap. So at least for now, you know, we'll never know whether or not the skills changes. But anyway, so. So I protected that morning.
So I've said note everything in the mornings pretty much. So I'm not you know, I like a lot of my friends do Bible studies or do different things. And, you know, if him I had felt like I had to. That was it an active choice that I had to push through like this season of life. This is my time to work. And so I'm protecting that time. She's getting her nap and I'm working these hours. Yeah.
Anyway, so it's an intentional choice to just protecting that time where you do work best.
I wish I was a morning person. I know so many people that are like I'm a morning person. I get up at 4:30 or 5 and I get all this done before the kids are up. And I'm like, I wish I could be a.
But I just there's I'm a night owl. I do my best work at night. I love it. And for me, I guess it's similar to the one people is when it's quiet. And right now we're in the middle of like hunting season. My husband on the weekends, he goes duck hunting. And so on Friday to Saturday night, he's in bed by like eight o'clock because he gets up at 4:00 in the morning to go hunting. And honestly, I love those nights, Suzanne.
Okay. It's Friday night. The kids are in bed. My husband's in bed. I don't have any obligations to anybody else. I put on an episode like reruns of Friends or some show I don't pay attention to or put on a podcast. And I will just have a quiet house and I will knock out five or six different things on my list. And I've been putting off. And it's just that time works for me. But I do get a little jealous people to like, I love my mornings.
I'm like, I wish I loved more. I just don't. But again, that comes down to knowing who you are. And if you're not a morning person, don't try to force yourself to do your work in the morning if you're not a night person. Don't try to force yourself to do work at night. So really, knowing kind of who you are and what works best for you.
And the other thing that add to you is like with the time blocking. I've learned like to schedule time for fun. You know, it's like I do like to watch. This is us and Grey's Anatomy. Like of some shows that I'll take. And so like on Friday nights, what I do, I've gotten this habit is we you know, we have three little kids. So we don't sometimes we go out for data, even if we get go on a date night.
So usually hope like a yeah. Although I do all the laundry during the day. Wash it off and then on Friday nights, I pulled the laundry in which measures know and I might do something like make some images or whatever while I'm watching your show. But but like you don't have to hustle all the time. You can take some time. We're fine. But, you know, make it intentional. And I think then because if you're just like watching all your shows and you know, you should be working, then you're just going to like feel like regret or guilt.
You know? Yeah. And it's not gonna be as fun but doing it. I know. Really fun.
Yeah. I like the idea of scheduling. And that sounds so spontaneous to say I'm scheduling in some fun. If I don't because I do a love my job. I love what I do. I could do it 24/7. I'm constantly thinking about my business in some form or fashion. And so if I don't schedule that time, if I don't say, OK, tonight is not a working night at all. And I mean, I think about it.
I look at it. I could touch it. And I'm just going to enjoy sitting on the couch watching a movie with my kids or a date night with my husband. And we'll do some times like happy hour dates where it's like we can still be home before this narrative with the kids do better, do whatever. But. If I don't do that, I will look up and weeks have gone by and I haven't done anything for myself or I haven't done anything that I can do.
I enjoy outside of work and my kids. Yeah. And so I think a lot of times as women, we forget that it's OK. Like, give yourself permission to schedule something, whether it's a lunch with a girlfriend, a date night with your husband, or like you said, just a Friday night to fold laundry and watch your shows. You know, that's that's relaxing. Like I I was tons of it. I was like, I have I just want to sit on the couch and watch Hallmark movies.
Cheesy movies, like, that's all I want to do.
And I don't I never allow myself to do that.
So I need to make time for me to do that. So I think that's really smart. So tell us about the creating capacity. Tell me a little bit about what that is and how people can get involved with that or become part of it. All the things you're doing. Yes.
Well, I have a Web site, which is only Mary and dot com and I'll link to that in the show.
Notes that have all that click and click on it. Go 0 7. You can find me on Facebook. My Facebook and Instagram are both Amy Marie Hand, but then I also have a creating capacity page on Facebook. So the vision is really a. Born out of a lot of mainstream thought and fields, but I've so many friends who are trying to figure this out, trying to figure out life, and I don't think it's something that you just figure figure out like you and I have been on our journeys.
We're still learning. We're still growing. We're still figuring out how to grow into the best version of ourselves. And so that's it's really a community of women who are who are all in that together. And so so each month I'll create an e-book of around a specific topic. So, you know, the things that we're gonna cover time blocking capsule wardrobe will just basic, you know, home stuff like our just our systems for like meal planning and laundry and and all of that stuff.
Kind of. The. Vision is really the more of these things that are just natural habits that, you know, like for me, like I always do my laundry on Fridays. I don't stress out when I see the full laundry and I do that on Fridays. It's lightening the mental load. So the more of these things that are just habits and disciplines that we always do it. And I am also you. I am not disciplined. There's one thing that I wish I was better at, which was discipline.
But I learned to be disciplined. I believe that that I believe in a growth mindset that you can learn to do anything. And so no matter where you are on the spectrum of organize, you know, I think the hot mess thing is not a genetic predisposition. You can learn to, you know, put things in practice to simplify your life, to make decisions so that you have a capacity for more, so that you have your life is more organized.
You have systems and habits in place. And so it's a continual process. So each month will kind of take a look at something specific. And then you kind of get to choose your own adventure terms of like where, where, what changes you can implement that month. So will empower you and help you to kind of determine, you know, how to apply that to your life. And then, you know, just focus on small changes in habits, habits over time to to really lead to that significant transformation, to give you that capacity for more.
So and then there's just a lot of encouragement and support. We will we'll have a Facebook group. Then there's also on my Web site, once you become a member, you'll have access to the portal with all the back resources that exist and just support supporting the journey.
I love that. That's awesome. I love it. You said, too, about, you know, kind of creating your own story. And I think for me, I look at listen, all those things you said. I love the idea of meal planning and I love the idea of creating a schedule. And I love it. I love the idea of all these things. But what I tend to do is I tend to jump in one hundred percent and go, I'm going to completely revamp our schedule.
I'm going to be the most organized person. And then it last for like a week and then I'm back to square one. And so I think it's great that you're kind of doing it. It's a little bit at a time so that people can not have to feel like they have to do everything. And you can kind of pick and choose what works best for your family and your work schedule in your life. I think that's really smart. I love it.
And so many other things, you know, change the seasons. So what works this year might work in January when, you know, ice skating or whatever starts or whatever your kids know. Like, it seems like each quarter our lives change. And so it's developing those disciplines and habits. And I kind of think about it like, you know, my goal is for each week to equip you so that you have at least one hour, you know, one new hour of something that, you know, if you were spending 15 minutes a day worried about what you're making for dinner, if you are organized with your meal planning and that gives you an extra hour.
And so I think an incremental growth. So, yeah. That's so awesome.
I'm so excited. Yes. So you already could have initially said people can find you on Facebook. You have your Web site and then you'll have the creative capacity Facebook page as well. And I will link to all of those in the show notes so that people can find you and follow you and join your membership program and just start organizing all the things they want to organize in your life, getting on top of it and not feeling so overwhelmed. I think that's a big thing.
If we can not feels overwhelmed, then it's a huge weight off of our shoulders.
Absolutely. Thank you so much for joining us today. This has been such a fun chat. I love hearing your story and connecting with you. And I think you have so many amazing things to share with us. And we just kind of scratched the surface today so people could definitely hop on board with you and learn a lot more.
Well, thank you so much for bringing me on and so fun to connect with you. You are following along in the podcast and hearing other stories on here. You are awesome.
Thank you so much. We'll have a wonderful day.
You do? Thank you so much, Amy, for all of your tips. I'm sure you're putting those into place A.S.A.P. as these kids drive us nuts these days.
Guys, if you want to follow along more with Amy, get any of her info or downloads, just head to the show notes and go follow her on all of her social media accounts and check out her Web site. All right, guys, that's going to do it for this week's episode. I hope you have a wonderful, wonderful week. And I will see you back here next week. Same time, same place.